Life tosses difficult circumstances at everyone. But others get better and move forward, regardless. That’s the strength of a survivor mentality.
If you would like to remain tough in challenging times, these seven important characteristics you must know and develop.
Emotional Control
Survivors have learned to control their feelings. It doesn’t indicate that they don’t experience pain or fear, it indicates that they don’t allow those feelings to control them. You stop, breathe, and decide how you’re going to respond. You can develop emotional control by developing self-awareness. When stress strikes, say to yourself, “What am I feeling at the moment?” Then label the emotion.
Clear Focus on What You Can Control
Resilient survivors don’t exert energy on what’s beyond their control. They concentrate on little triumphs, rising up, eating well, working hard, and seeking help. Ask yourself repeatedly: “Is this in my control?” If not, abandon it. Concentrate on what you can manage. This practice restores your power.
Adaptability
Plans don’t work out. Life surprises you. But rather than freezing or breaking down, you adapt. You take a new route. One adaptation is to stop being scared of failure. Recognize it as a cue to change, not give up. Individuals who achieve success, even in games like JILI, timing and intelligent moves count, and you have to know when to turn. Learn, adapt, go.
Positive Self-Talk
Survivors fuel their brains with courage. They tell themselves, “I can do this,” “I will get it done,” or “This will not destroy me.” Disparaging words shrink you. Get your brain on your team, not in charge of tormenting you. When you mess up, substitute “I can’t” for “I’ll try.” Your words create your thoughts.
Determination
Persistent survivors do not quit so easily. They continue moving forward, even when progress comes slowly. They establish goals and remain committed to them. Begin with tiny, everyday goals. Develop a routine of forward motion. Every time your brain experiences success, it learns.
Support Seeking
Survivors don’t have to be lone warriors. They know what they need. Seeking assistance from a friend, support group, or professional counselor takes strength, not weakness. You don’t have to do it all by yourself. You help yourself heal and become stronger when you share the burden. Being in a group, family, or online community, connection is what strengthens you.
Purpose and Perspective
Survivors have a “why.” Something to live for. It can be family, faith, dreams, or helping others. Purpose gives you fuel to keep going. Perspective too. Survivors take a step back. They tell themselves, “This is hard, but it’s not done.” They think that things can get better soon. When you put things into perspective, the burden becomes lighter in the long run.
Wrapping Up
Survivor mindset does not mean you never fight. It means you figure out how to keep going and push through. You start to keep a positive mindset that whatever happens, you will walk with perseverance. Practice often. And trust in the process. You have the capability. You’re not just getting by, you’re expanding.
